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Choosing to Start Even When I Feel Afraid

Choosing to Start Even When I Feel Afraid

I have chosen to live a BIGGER life this year because I decided to start moving towards the life I want for myself, even when I feel afraid.  That’s meant the 5 main goals I wrote down in January, I actively worked towards achieving.  

This is the first year EVER that I have managed to do that!!  Usually I would discard my well meaning goals very soon into the new year. I would decide that they were just very “unrealistic”.

However this year I have moved  away from defining my life by “labels”.  For some of us that’s the label of “depression” or “chronic pain” or “I’m not a writer or an athlete or social” etc.

All those labels, though they might contain some truth, can keep us stuck living a small life! 

One of the labels that was significant for me to let go of, was long term chronic back pain.  Something that has been a constant part of my life for almost 10 years and held back from engaging in activities I wanted in my life.  

Instead I have decided I am going to pursue activities I am interested in (though sensibly of course), regardless of what my brain is telling me about my back.   I have started though feeling afraid, with determination.


This past year I have…

Taken my kids camping, not once but four times!  And I have gotten better and faster at packing!

Celebrated my 40th birthday with some beautiful friends in the midst of intense pressure and stress.  I can honestly say that I have so much to be thankful for!

I pulled out the old, ugly 1970’s kitchen in my house and installed a new kitchen available through Bunnings Warehouse- by myself!! That included the sink, taps and a whole lot of floor and wall tiling!   I have never done anything like that before!

Gone hiking in the Stirling Ranges for the first time in 11 and 1/2 years!! Oh and that was in the midst of trying to connect my sink up, get the new stove in and finish the tiling!  Yes crazy!! Lesson learnt- tiles don’t adhere well when you do them up in a hurry!!

I also joined several new social groups, started at a new church,  and meet a lot of new people!

While some of these things have been a lot of fun, others have been scary, uncomfortable and had me questioning my sanity and why on earth I started the project in the first place.  

Sometimes I have felt afraid and overwhelmed!! Sometimes I have failed!!  

But  I agree with Seth Goodin who says, “The only thing worse than starting something and failing, is not starting something.”

More Personal Goals

My next big goal is starting this blog!! And I feel scared and excited! I am choosing to start!

I have so many ideas for resources, posts and products that will help you the reader focus on achieving the goals you have for your life.  Goals to be more organised or have less clutter, or finish a DIY project or two…

What have you done that’s been uncomfortable or even had you scared?

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Julie Cavaney

Wednesday 21st of December 2016

Wow well done on the doing the kitchen yourself, I am so impressed. I want to do my bathroom but keep putting it off. Maybe I should just plan it and do it while it's hot and then we can have showers under the hose for two weeks.

Jane Rao

Wednesday 21st of December 2016

I got the reno bug after seeing how well my kitchen turned out. Bathroom next hopefully! Yeah go for it with your bathroom! :) Showering outside sounds like a lot of fun! My kids would love that! :) Thanks so much for stopping by my blog!


Tuesday 20th of December 2016

What an amazing year you have had Jane, well done for all your efforts!

Jane Rao

Tuesday 20th of December 2016

Thanks Sharon! :)

Kerry McNeill

Wednesday 14th of December 2016

That was so inspiring Jane. I never knew that about you (your back pain) but thought you were amazing anyway, going on those trips and renovating. Thanks for starting this. Love it. XX

Jane Rao

Thursday 15th of December 2016

Thanks so much Kerry. I appreciate it!!

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